To help you identify your FLBs, I prepared some questions for you to answer.

Please answer honestly and truthfully so that your TRUE FLBs will surface.

Take note that negative emotions may arise as you recall your past experiences.

Fears and FLBs while dating:

1. What are your fears while dating? (you can write multiple fears, FLBs)

Ex. I fear that my date will not like me if they knew that I am a single parent.

2. What is the root cause of this fear / FLB?

Ex. Growing up, my parents and grandparents used to tell me not to be like the single mothers in our town because they bring shame to their family (a common belief in Asia)

3. Who passed this fear / FLB on to you? From whom did you get this energy block?

Ex. My parents and grandparents

4. At what age did you first feel this fear / FLB?

Examples:

When I first had my boyfriend at 16. I kept thinking that he might get me pregnant and then leave me.

When I got divorced at 25, and couldn’t open up to my dates that I have a child for fear of being rejected

5. Write down the opposite of this belief in the present tense

Ex. I am proud of being a mother. My partner loves and accepts me and my child wholeheartedly.

 

Fears and FLBs while in a relationship:

1. What are your fears while in a relationship? (you can write multiple fears, FLBs)

Ex: I fear that my partner will eventually cheat on me and leave me

2. What is the root cause of this fear / FLB?

Ex. My dad cheated on my mother. All my previous partners cheated on me.

3. Who passed this fear / FLB on to you? From whom did you get this energy block?

Ex. From my dad and all my ex-partners.

4. At what ages did you feel this fear / FLB?

Examples:

When I was 15, when my mother found out that my dad was cheating on her

When I was 17, when I found out my boyfriend at that time was pining for someone else while with me

When I was 22, when my sister saw my boyfriend at that time with someone else

When I was 25, when my boyfriend at that time hooked up with his ex

5. Write down affirmations that are opposites of this belief. These could be multiple affirmations. Write in present tense.

Examples:

I have a committed and loyal partner who loves and accepts me unconditionally

I am in a committed and healthy relationship with my partner

I feel secure and confident in our relationship

My partner and I are madly in-love with each other

 

Fears and FLBs after a break-up:

1. What are your fears when you have broken up with your partner?

Ex: I fear that my partner has already moved on with someone else

2. What is the root cause of this fear / FLB?

Ex. I see this everywhere: on TV, social media; I see it among my friends. This has been my experience in the past as well.

3. Who passed this fear / FLB on to you? From whom did you get this energy block?

Ex. From social media, my favorite celebrities, friends, family

4. At what ages did you feel this fear / FLB?

Examples:

When I was 22, my boyfriend left me and moved in with someone else almost right away

When I was 27, my boyfriend left me and got married to someone else after 3 months

5. Write down affirmations that are opposites of this belief. You can write multiple affirmations. Write in present tense.

Examples:

My partner still loves me and wants to be with me

My partner believes we can work things out

My partner realized that I am their one true love.

 

Do the same for the following:

Fears and FLBs about marriage / being married

Fears and FLBs about the concept of pure and unconditional love

Fears and FLBs when it comes to sex (ex. Some people use sex for validation)

Fears and FLBs about finding the perfect partner

Fears and FLBs about having children (if this is your plan down the road)

Fears and FLBs about being your true and authentic self

Other fears that you can think of.

For your daily practice, continue with the visualization session that you’ve been doing since Day 1. Do it every morning and night.

Log your visualizations here to track your progress: https://tinyurl.com/ybr5q2ga