You’re here because you want to get your ex-girlfriend back. Don’t worry, you are not alone, and the reason I wrote this article is I’ve seen so many people ask how they can have their ex-girlfriends back and some of the answers have nothing to do with how to really get their ex-girlfriend back.
This article will show you the truth about your reality, the cause of your breakup with your ex-girlfriend, and what you can do to reverse the situation.
The very first thing that you need to do is take a slow and deep breath and say these words to yourself: “There is nothing to worry about. I will get my ex back. In fact, my ex-girlfriend is no longer an ex, so I will quit calling her my ex. She is my girlfriend, and she loves me unconditionally.”
I hope you believe that statement with all your heart and mind because the moment you believe so 100%, it becomes your reality. You will understand better as you read through this article. You also need to apply whatever you learned in this article — it’s like learning a new skill, you’ll never be good at anything unless you practice.
Thoughts become things
What you need to understand is the basic principle of “thoughts become things.” You probably heard this already but try to pause and ponder on what this quote truly means.
This means that whatever we think at any given time, we create. If you are thinking about how your situation is so hopeless, then it will be hopeless. If you think that your love is seeing a new guy, then you’ll create a situation where she is actually seeing a new guy.
If you worry that she has already moved on and forget about you, you are absolutely right! If you don’t believe that you’ll get back together, well, guess what? The universe says, your wish is my command.
Have you ever experienced a moment where you thought of a friend and that friend suddenly liked your message on Facebook, or sent your an SMS, or called you? And then you tell them “I was just thinking of you!” You think it’s a great coincidence? No, it’s not. Nothing is coincidence.
The truth is, your thought caused them to contact you. You thought about them contacting you first, that’s why they contacted you. That’s the best example of “thoughts become things.”
Why did your girlfriend leave?
In the beginning of your relationship, everything seemed perfect and wonderful. You felt desirable, masculine, in-love, happy, inspired, and all the good feelings in between. You adore your girlfriend completely — you thought she was the most amazing woman in the whole world. In return, she loved and adored you completely and only had eyes on you. She always looked forward to talking to you, hearing your voice, and sending you sweet messages on SMS and Facebook.
You couldn’t say anything negative about her; you couldn’t find any fault in her. In return, she thought you were perfect, wonderful, and exactly the guy of her dreams.
Because you loved her completely, she couldn’t stop raving about you and couldn’t stop telling people how she was so in-love with you!
When you thought that you had the perfect and the most profound connection, she agreed 100%. You had a magical connection that you couldn’t find anywhere else.
You were convinced that you were meant to be and destined for each other. And it was true: you were meant to be and each other’s destiny. She was the one, and you were the one for her.
You spoke about her positively and lovingly. There was nothing negative to feel, no frustrations, no stress, no insecurity, no fear, no doubt, no worry.
You felt totally deserving of her love. Things were absolutely perfect and amazing!
And then one day you thought, “Why is this too good to be true?”
“What if she leaves me?”
“I don’t feel like I deserve this woman!”
“I wonder if she really loves me.”
“Is she seeing someone else?”
“Is she messaging and Facebooking with other guys?”
You started to have your crazy and negative inner dialogues with yourself, especially when you were not with her; you started to think of things that you feared the most. Then you doubted your girlfriend and your relationship. You didn’t think you deserved a relationship with her.
You had a hard time believing that everything was perfect, because your past experiences showed otherwise. You began to ‘investigate’ about her past or stalk her on social media. You began to control her and wanted to know her whereabouts. You didn’t trust her. Some people go as far as checking their girlfriend’s emails, SMS messages, and social media accounts.
You initiated arguments and petty fights with her.
You thought she was being inconsiderate. You thought she was being unfair. And so on…
There are two types of thoughts in this world: thoughts that build and thoughts that destroy.
Thoughts that build include faith, love, hope, peace, and other positive thoughts in between.
Thoughts that destroy are doubt, fear, anger, misery, jealousy, worry, and other negative thoughts in between.
When you were in a relationship with your girlfriend, did you have total trust and confidence in both of you, or were you insecure, fearful, easily annoyed, doubtful, or jealous?
Now you know the reason she left you. Thoughts create things. They always do. In fact, as you think, you create!
As you read this article, you are creating your future reality. Even in your sleep, you create your reality through your dreams!
Always remember that your inner thoughts create your outer reality. It doesn’t matter whether your thoughts are fleeting or not. It doesn’t matter whether you’re aware of your thoughts or not.
You can’t blame your girlfriend for this whole thing. You cannot blame her for changing her attitude. You cannot blame your circumstances for this. You cannot blame your busy schedule for this. You cannot blame time or distance for this.
Why? Because you had a choice.
You had a choice to dismiss all the obstacles and challenges in your relationship. You had a choice to think positively the entire time you were together. You had a choice to never doubt her and her love for you. You had a choice to think you’re deserving of a relationship with her. You had a choice to control your thoughts.
You had a choice to think your relationship WAS EASY. When you think it’s easy, it will be easy. When you stress over it, it becomes stressful.
Can you reverse the situation?
I understand if you feel uneasy and regretful for creating this circumstance, but the good news is that you can definitely reverse the situation. And the first step is to totally eliminate all the negative thoughts in your mind.
I know you always hear this advice from people around you, but did you actually consider that this advice needs to be taken literally?
When someone says “think positive”, that means there’s absolutely nothing negative to think. And when there’s nothing negative to feel, you will not have any negative emotions. How can you have negative emotions when you only think happy and positive thoughts?
So, yes, YOU CAN reverse the situation as long as you are willing to do the necessary work. The first step is to change your thoughts!
What are you thinking now? Are you thinking of things that help you get closer to getting your girlfriend back? Are you thinking of things that drive her further away?
Remember that at each moment, your thought creates. So watch your thoughts carefully.
Watch your words at all times
Why would you say, “She doesn’t love me anymore,” or “She hates me,” or “She’s gone forever,” or “She doesn’t want to have anything to do with me,” or “This is a hopeless and impossible situation,” when you can CHOOSE to say, “Getting her back is easy and fast!”
“She loves me so much that she misses me right at this moment,”
“She’s an amazing and beautiful woman and I love her,”
“She’s crazy about me! She wants me so badly!”
It takes the same time and effort to think negatively and positively so why choose negativity?
Remember that you have the power to create your life right at this moment. You also have the power to create your ideal relationship right at this moment!
There’s nothing to do in your current reality
When you are negative, doubtful, paranoid, angry, hurting, in pain, and still crying over the breakup, know that there’s nothing that you can do to get your girlfriend back right NOW!
So knowing this, you don’t have to do anything in your current reality.
There’s no need to email, no need to beg, no need to text, no need to contact her on social media, no need to stress over the situation.
How will you solve this whole thing if you stress over the situation? You achieve nothing. You will only create resistance in her. You will only make her run away further.
Remember, she had no choice when you appear needy and couldn’t live without her. The more you run after her, the more they run away.
So, choose to think of this whole journey as easy; and because this is easy, there’s no need to chase. You won’t get anything that you chase anyway. This is true with your career, business, relationships, and any desires that you want. You have to let her come to you by thinking she wants and loves you right at this moment!
Faith is the most powerful thing
You need to have faith that what you think and imagine will come true. Even if you have no faith, your lack of faith will come true anyway because ALL THOUGHTS BECOME REAL!
So if you believe that she will not come back to you, then you will get exactly that. If you think that she’s still mad at you or think of you as annoying, you create that version of her who doesn’t like you.
If you think it’s very hard to be with her because of the distance, time, circumstances, work, finances, and 100 other reasons, then you will create the reality where it’s extremely difficult to be with her. Why would you do that to both of you?
You need to ponder on the definition of faith and ask yourself what this really means. I’m sure you’ve been told before to have faith and to not stop believing. What do these words mean to you?
You need to take this advice literally. To have faith is to let go of everything that is the opposite of faith like worry, fear, doubt, and other negative things!
If you want her back, believe 100% that you can have her back!
What is it that you want exactly?
You have to be clear with what you want. Some people simply want their girlfriend back without really knowing the kind of relationship that they want with her.
Do you want her to unblock you on social media?
Do you want to be engaged with her? Do you want to live with her under one roof? Do you want to be married to her?
What kind of relationship do you imagine with her? This is important to know what you want exactly — the more detailed it is that you want, the universe will give you something that matches exactly what it is that you want.
The mind is powerful so be creative in what you want to happen! Don’t be limited by yourself and your own imagination! You can create anything that you want!
Do you really want your girlfriend back?
Do you really want your love back because you love her or is it because your ego was hurt during the breakup?
There are those who thought they wanted their girlfriend back in the beginning. They would do all the work for days, weeks, months, and even years.
Then, when they hear from their girlfriend, they realize that they really don’t want her back anymore. In the end, they decided she is not worth it and they chose to move on during the journey.
So make sure you want her back for all the right reasons, and not because you’re hurt and you bruised your ego. Because if this is all ego, you will realize in the end that you don’t really want her back to you and you are simply wasting your time.
Everything starts from within
Always remember that to change the outside, you need to change the inside.
So if you want your outer world to change, change your thoughts first because your thoughts are responsible for what happens to you. And I mean EVERYTHING that happens to you!
So start to examine your beliefs about the people, things, and events around you. Examine what you believe about you. Can you really blame if people act the way they act around you? You can change the way they think of you through your thoughts. So start now thinking of what you want people to think of you. If you want them to love you, they WILL love you and admire you.
You are the cause of everything in your life
I used to take offense when someone says, “It’s your fault,” because I didn’t really understand things better.
But now I am the first one to say that whatever happens in my life is my fault. There’s no one else to blame. Whatever I think I create, therefore I created everything around me. I created what I see around me.
You cannot blame your girlfriend for leaving you. This is your own doing. This is your fault.
I know it’s really hard to read this and take responsibility for something you think is not even your own doing. You probably think that she “chose” to leave.
The truth is that she didn’t choose to leave. She left because of your thoughts. If you review everything carefully, you’ll find out that you had doubts, fear, etc., either about her or your relationship.
How can love stay when there’s doubt, fear, or worry? Love only attracts things that vibrate love. Doubt, fear, and worry are not in the same vibe as love.
No need to think of the past and memories with your girlfriend
Many are stuck thinking about the past and recalling memories with their girlfriend. They ask themselves if there’s anything that they could have done better.
They also think of memories, past arguments, and replay the break-up in their mind. Again, and again, and again.
If you replay these memories, past arguments, and breakup in your mind, what do you create?
Yes, absolutely! You create the reality that she is not with you and she doesn’t feel good about you at all.
Instead of thinking of the past and what happened, you need to re-write the past. You need to create new things and experiences in your mind.
Why would you spend time analyzing visions that are so negative instead of spending your precious time creating visions that are happy and positive?
So totally revise your past thoughts and give new life to positive thoughts! Revising your past will affect your present life in a positive way!
This process takes time
This process takes time. You can’t think positive and expect results to happen right away. You can’t think of being in a relationship with your girlfriend and expect her to appear by your side and BE your girlfriend, although sometimes you will hear from her right away. This is how powerful thoughts are.
If you want to speed things up, you need to do the work of visualizing what you want. The more positive and intense your thoughts, the more quickly the results will come.
And the more you ignore your current reality and live in your mind, the more quickly the results will come.
If you let your reality affect your thoughts and feelings, then you will slow the process down.
You don’t need to let her go
There’s no need to let her go. There’s no need to give up. You just need to stop your obsession, and stop doubting that you will get her back.
You need to let go of the need to control her and the situation. There’s nothing to control except your mind.
If you can’t stop thinking about her, do some guided meditation or go out with your friends or keep yourself busy. In fact, why don’t you start new hobbies?
The more you think of her, the more opportunity for negative thoughts to come up. It’s better to think of her for 1 to 5 minutes as long as the thoughts are purely positive.
Your thoughts are the only truth
Always keep in mind that your thoughts are the only truth and the only reality. You shouldn’t let your current reality affect you.
You can do this by having 100% control of your thoughts.
Whatever negative news and things you see related to your girlfriend, ignore them. They are the results of your past thoughts about her and your situation.
Instead, spend time creating new thoughts.
Focus on yourself and on feeling good!
When you are too focused on getting your ex back, you don’t really trust that you will be reunited again. If you want to happen it right away by stressing over the results or trying to look for signs everywhere or analyzing everything that she does on social media, you are operating from the place of fear. You fear that she might be dating someone else, or you fear that she has completely moved on, that’s why you can’t stop checking on her! Your mind becomes preoccupied by what she does, who she is with, what she’s doing, and so on.
If you think you will never be happy on your own and will only be happy with her, you’re setting yourself up for a big failure. Because what this means exactly is you are afraid that she might leave you for good, or that he has completely moved on with his life without you, and forget about you.
But if you are happy and content with your everyday life, and you choose to be happy on your own, you will vibrate happiness, joy, and contentment. As a result, she will be drawn to you again and will find you attractive, handsome, and desirable!
As you love yourself, you will vibrate love and she will start to love you again. As you love yourself more and more, she will love you more and more.
So you need to focus on you — on becoming whole again, and on becoming great again. Nobody can do this for you but you! If you want to feel great, no one can feel great for you except you! It’s like wanting to have a massage so you can relax and instead of you going to the massage place, you send a friend to get the massage. You will never get the benefits of the massage — your friend will!
You have to do the work of feeling good!
What does it mean to feel good? First, you need to practice gratitude. Say thank you for everything in your life: your career, your house, your car, your family and friends, everything that you own, your good health, your hair, your food, the water that you drink, your pets… everything!
Second is to give love! Love yourself first. You can do this by telling yourself in the mirror that you love yourself. Then love everything around you. Adore everything, and if there’s nothing to adore, find something to adore! If you think your blue mug is just a mug, adore it for being useful and for being blue in color!
Feel confident, and handsome! You can do this by taking care of yourself and your physical appearance. Go get a new haircut, have your nails done, get a massage, go to the gym, buy new sets of clothes, buy those shoes, pick a different perfume! Just do whatever you need to do to feel confident and amazing again!
Make sure you’re not doing these things for another person especially your girlfriend. Do these things for YOU, because you love you and you care for you!
Give yourself compliments! Congratulate yourself for a job well done! Treat yourself to a nice movie! Go out on a date with yourself! Tell yourself you’re absolutely wonderful and amazing! Thank yourself for being the best version of you!
Then imagine everyone liking and loving you! Imagine them wanting to be near you and talk to you and be friends with you! Imagine being surrounded by a crowd… imagine how they completely adore you! You are a star and you’re amazing! They can’t help but admire you and be drawn to you! Thank them for giving you that attention! You can do all these things in your mind, by imagination. And remember, whatever you create in your mind appears in your reality!
What you need to remember
You create what happens to you. There are no random attitudes towards you. The way people treat you is your own creation.
There are also no random events, chances, or accidents! The way people think of you, what they say to you, what they feel about you and around you are the results of your own thoughts. You reflect what you think and believe in. You get what you expect from others.
You are the master of your thoughts and your destiny. Don’t make mistakes or any excuses. You have to take 100% responsibility for your life, which means you have to take 100% full responsibility for your thoughts.
Nothing exists in this world without thinking about it first. Nothing exists on its own.
You can get your girlfriend back and you will. In fact, if you start now, your girlfriend will come to you starting now. There’s no other way but for her to come to you. Imagine whatever you want to happen and it will happen.
You are a powerful creator. You simply need to acknowledge and claim that power. Be the master of your thoughts and you will be the master of your destiny.