How to Get Your Ex-Wife Back

How to Get Your Ex-Wife Back

All relationships have the ultimate goal of marriage.

As you go through mere casual acquaintances to friendship to courtship to engagement and, finally, marriage, you have experienced the ABSOLUTE TRUTHS that govern the love, bonding, and unity that characterize relationships.

These are truths that you never realized existed until your marriage got ripped apart and you are feeling lonely, angry, and in despair.

What you don’t know is that these same truths, partnered with strong belief and faith, can help you to get your ex-wife back.

So, let’s first go through these ABSOLUTE TRUTHS of relationships that you need to remind yourself of if you want to get your ex-wife successfully.

 

Absolute Truths of Relationships

TRUTH #1: As man and wife who loved and desired each other, know that who you want to be with is DESTINED for you.

The fact that both of you decided to bind yourselves in holy matrimony is proof of this. As you desired TO BE ONE with HER, it was her desire TO BE ONE with YOU. That’s because desire is ALWAYS a two-way thing.

TRUTH #2: By getting married, you have achieved the ULTIMATE GOAL of relationships: the culmination of all those months or years that you spent getting to know each other and falling in-love.

Just see how far you have evolved. You became friends and discovered that you shared so many likes and similarities that you wanted to be with each other more often.

From here, you started dating. Then you decided to take the plunge and asked her to marry. Lo and behold, she said YES! That’s how much in-love you were with each other.

TRUTH #3: Your marriage embodied your ACCEPTANCE of each other.

Neither of you allowed each other’s quirks in personalities to bother you. These quirks signify your uniqueness as individuals and what unite you as a couple.

Your acceptance of the other’s quirks means you understood their faults, adapted to them, and made up for any shortcomings in the other without complaint.

TRUTH #4: Acceptance of the totality of each other is the driving factor for the desire, intention, determination, and love TO BE WITH EACH OTHER.

This love, desire, and respect is a MUTUAL, TWO-WAY THING that is shared by both of you.

You may be apart now, but you want her back. Believe it or not, as you have this desire to want her back, she has the UNCONSCIOUS desire to want you back also.

The connection of your minds and hearts drives the two of you to be reunited again.

TRUTH #5: Your desire to be reunited with your ex-wife is fueled by the powerful and intense vibrations of love, good intentions, faith, and belief.

It is these same vibrations from which your mind derives the power to create this reality that you fiercely desire. And these vibrations can do it BECAUSE THE CONNECTION BETWEEN YOU STILL AND WILL ALWAYS EXIST.

You don’t need to seek further proof of this connection. Before you even got married, both of you knew when the other had a problem and bothered or distressed about it.

The vibrations that the two of you emitted acted  as magnets to bring you together.

Reading these five truths, you must be feeling confused right now.

“If these truths are absolute, why didn’t they stop the dissolution of our marriage?”

“Why did we get a divorce after all these years of being happily married?”

“What, when, how, where, and why did things go very wrong between us?”

“IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO WIN HER HEART BACK?”

I have all the answers to these questions. You can use this knowledge to enable you to initiate the process of reuniting with your ex-wife.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been separated and have been apart for months or years, YOU CAN GET HER BACK!

However, for your desire to come true, YOU NEED TO WORK FAITHFULLY, DILIGENTLY AND WITH FIRM DETERMINATION FOR IT.

Why Your Marriage Ended

I understand that you are still very much in pain and heartbroken over your separation.

I’m pretty sure thinking about the happy memories don’t help as much. You either become sad as you recall how you broke up.

 Let’s go back to when you were that beautiful, perfect couple.

Remember how wonderful it was and how loving you were toward each other? You were madly in love with this beautiful lady. She, on the other hand, found you to be the perfect match for her.

What you had between you was a mutual admiration. As you believed that she is the most gorgeous and loving woman in your life, she equally thought of you as the most amazing man in the world.

The connection between you was strong because you had a positive and loving connection in both minds and hearts.   

You didn’t say anything negative to each other. You also didn’t think any negative thoughts about each other. Every thought, feeling, action, and word was positive.

You fully accepted each other. You have come to know and understand each other’s quirks.

Rather than be annoyed, you accepted them as characteristics that define her and you chose to adapt and cope with them. She also adapted and coped with your unique qualities.

Your pride in each other was without bounds. This mutual pride was driven by your love, respect, and dedication toward each other.

Just think about it: the connection that you had with her was deep, magical, mystical, and profound. IT WAS 100% PERFECT!

IT IS YOUR DESTINY TO BE TOGETHER! WHAT THE UNIVERSE HAS BROUGHT AND BONDED TOGETHER, LET NOTHING TEAR ASUNDER!

So how did this beautiful, mystical connection get torn apart?

Let’s fast forward to the months or years before the dissolution of your marriage. Try to remember when you started to think such insidious, negative thoughts, such as:

“Our relationship can’t be real! It’s just too good to be true!”

“How could someone like me deserve such a beautiful, loving, and wonderful woman as her?”

“What made such a wonderful woman like her fall in love with me?”

“Does she truly love me? Does she still love me even after all these many years of our marriage?”

“What if she suddenly decides to leave me? I can’t live without her!”

You planted the seeds of negativity inside your mind with thoughts like these. If all this self-doubt didn’t bring damage, you let the other people around you plant more negative thoughts in your already-damaged psyche.

“You should never have married her. I knew right from the start she wasn’t the right woman for you.”

“No relationship is perfect, including yours.”

“I saw her with another man.”

 All these negative thoughts accumulated inside your mind.

You also burdened yourself by past experiences with girlfriends whom you thought you will be with in the beginning but ended up breaking up with.

You developed the fear that the same thing will happen to you and your wife. YOUR MARRIAGE WOULD NEVER HAVE FALLEN APART IF YOU HAD NOT WANTED IT TO!

You can picture now just how powerful all these negative thoughts are.

To make matters worse, you started to feel afraid, worried, and doubtful about her and your marriage. The combined effects of your thoughts and emotions are the projection of negative vibrations to the Universe.

Then, there’s that annoying and wholly inaccurate statement that people close to you always say:

“You have gone through the honeymoon period of courtship and engagement. Now that you’re married, you finally know who she truly is.”

As you transformed into a vibrating mess of negative thoughts and emotions, you did not only transmit this negativity to the Universe; you also sent them to your wife.

You transformed her into your dark mirror image. If you thought she behaved like an obsessed, paranoid fool, that’s because you behaved in exactly the same way.

You argued and fought all the time. You could no longer tolerate each other’s quirks. You demand that she change. She made the same demand for you.

Then, there’s the death blow to your marriage: “I don’t think this is working out. We shouldn’t be together. I can’t stand to live with you anymore!”

So, you parted ways. You even got that divorce or annulment. But things didn’t end here.

After the dust settled, you realized that you still love her after all and that you want her back.

However, you persist in your obsessive thoughts and behaviors.

You tell your friends and acquaintances to give you updates on where she is and what she’s doing.

You bombard her with messages and emails to tell her you’re sorry and begged her forgiveness.  

You always check her Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media accounts to see if she’s with another man.

Unknown to you, you transmit these obsessive vibrations that cause resistance on her part.

 

What You Think, You Create

Perhaps now you understand the destructive role that negative thoughts played in your marriage.

It is these thoughts that created the reality that you feared would happen. By allowing these negative thoughts to fester your mind, you created that which is undesired. WHAT YOU THOUGHT, YOU CREATED.

By holding on to the negativity, you have transformed your mind into the breeding ground for all the fights, arguments, fears, doubts, worries and all other negative things that happened in your marriage. YOU REAPED WHAT YOU SOWED.

Your wife is PERFECT because you BELIEVED HER TO BE SO. She is perfect because YOU ACCEPTED HER FOR WHO SHE IS, LOVED HER DESPITE HER IMPERFECTIONS. YOU CLAIMED HER ENTIRE BEING, BOTH THE GOOD AND THE BAD.

But, by letting these negative thoughts strengthen and overwhelm you, your subconscious mind acted by amplifying and projecting negative vibrations to your ex-wife.

You have changed her into the person you dislike. You’ve turned your ex-wife into a monster because of you.

Messages from the Universe

Here’s something you don’t know: the Universe, through your subconscious mind, always sends messages to you that you are mucking up your life or your relationship and you need to do something about it.

Do you know that popular quote about the eyes being the windows to the soul?

When it comes to the three aspects of mind, your inner turmoil (or inner peace) is manifested through your body. If your mind is filled with negative thoughts, you will project your internal chaos through your physical appearance and your behavior.

Just take a look at your reflection in the mirror and see how haggard you are and how deep your frown lines have become.

In the second way, all you need to do is look at your ex-wife. I said it earlier that your negative vibrations are transforming your wife for the worst.

If she is depressed, frustrated, angry, and argumentative, it is because she is mirroring back at you the negative vibrations you have been bombarding her with.

The third way that the Universe has been struggling to contact you is through your kids, if you have any. Haven’t your kids told you these statements:

“Why are you always fighting, Daddy?”

“Stop blaming Mommy!”

“Why are you so mean, Daddy?”

Yes, these comments are coming from your children, but they are messages to you from the Universe. The Universe warns you that your marriage is on the rocks, but you chose to ignore it!

 

Where the Blame Lies

 Don’t blame your ex-wife for wanting to divorce you. Don’t blame the time and distance that was imposed between you upon your separation.

Full blame for your separation falls on YOUR NEGATIVITY. Your kids (and the Universe) have been telling you the truth.

YOU ARE SOLELY TO BLAME FOR ALL THE BAD THINGS IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND ITS CONSEQUENT DISSOLUTION.

You ask: why should you be the one to blame? Isn’t the fault shared equally between you and your ex-wife?

DEFINITELY NOT. FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR SEPARATION FALLS SOLELY ON YOUR SHOULDERS.

You were given a number of choices to fix your marriage. The Universe even tried to warn you through your kids and other kind family members and friends. Instead, you made the wrong choices.

What are these wrong choices?

You chose not to ignore and eliminate the negative thoughts, both that arose inside your mind and from the people around you.

You chose to become annoyed with your ex-wife’s quirks. Instead of coping and adapting to her quirks, you rejected her and tried to mold her in your desired image. A move which backfired on you because she changed into the very negative image of you!

You chose not to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones throughout the course of your relationship.

You chose not to believe that she loves you. You harbored doubts about her feelings for you.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, you let go of your absolute control over your thoughts. By relinquishing control, you could not have a firm grip on the mind images of the two of you in a happy, perfect and loving marriage.

It should not be difficult for you to understand and accept the reality that your relationship came quickly, easily, and smoothly for the two of you?

YOU MADE THE CHOICE TO BE IN A BEAUTIFUL, PERFECT, AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE AND THE UNIVERSE GAVE IT TO YOU WILLINGLY.

BUT, NO, YOU DESTROYED YOUR MARRIAGE BY CLINGING TO YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.

YOU REAPED WHAT YOU SOWED. YOUR MARRIAGE TURNED INTO A MESS BECAUSE YOUR NEGATIVITY MADE IT SO.

Reversing the Situation and Getting Her Back

It’s not too late, you know. You wouldn’t be reading this article right now if you didn’t know that there is still a chance to get your ex-wife back.

Negative thoughts caused your separation. Positive thoughts can restore your marriage.

So, what you need to do is get rid of all the negative thoughts stored inside your mind and replace them with positive thoughts and emotions.

To make this easier for you, I want you to sit down with a pen and paper.

Write down every thought that pops into your mind. Most likely, the thoughts that will emerge include the following:

“I want to get back with her, but I’m afraid she doesn’t love me anymore.”

“I can’t accept it if she’s seeing someone else.”

“Do I really deserve to have her back in my life?”

Once you’re done, look at your list and see just how much negativity your mind is burdened with.

It’s no wonder your marriage became a total mess. YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS CREATED YOUR REALITY.

Because these thoughts constantly replay inside your mind, you block all the positive thoughts and vibrations that can bring your ex-wife back to you.

 

What To Do To Get Your Ex-Wife Back

Now that you know what you’re up against, let’s now go through the steps to get your ex-wife back.

 

STEP 1: Honestly answer this simple question: DO YOU WANT HER BACK?

To answer this question, I want you to examine your mind and heart closely.

What motivates your desire to be reunited with your ex?

Is it because you realized you really love and miss her and fill that empty place in your heart?

Do you want her back because of your hurt ego, that you want to show people that you can win her back? That you only want to salvage your pride?

Answer this question to arrive at the truth of your feelings. Men have tried to get their ex-wives back, but when they do get together they realize that love no longer exists between them.

These reunions are not worth the hard work. It is best for the couple to just move on with their lives without each other.

You should be very sure that you want her back AND for the right reasons – that you still love her very much and that you want to live with her until the end of your lives.

However, if you only want to fix your bruised ego, don’t even try to exert effort because it is sure that neither of you would want to get back together again.

You may ask, “What about if we got back together for the kids? She wouldn’t want our kids to live without their father in their lives!”

Uh, not really. True, your kids may have been the messengers of the Universe, warning you to fix your marriage while you were still a couple. BUT, you should NEVER make them your reason to be reunited with your ex-wife.

If you want her back, it’s because YOU want her. NOT YOUR KIDS.

Couples have tried to get back together for their kids’ sakes. In the end, they reverted to their fighting and arguing ways. Their poor kids even suffered the blame from their parents for pushing them to get back together.

BE FIRM IN YOUR DECISION TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH YOUR EX-WIFE BECAUSE YOU WANT HER BACK, AND NOT BECAUSE OF YOUR KIDS OR ANYONE ELSE.

 

STEP NO. 2: Be crystal clear on your true desires.

This means you should have a clear mental image of your desire for a reunion with your ex. The clearer and the more detailed, the better.

Let your mind wander back to the beautiful, loving relationship you had before the fights and the breakup.

Revel in your oneness and the solidarity of your marriage, your unity and your determination to face all problems and obstacles that you will encounter. Picture those lovely moments with your kids.

Imagine how your new life would be with her when you get back together again.

You could see yourselves spending more quality time with each other without your children. Go out for romantic dinners, watch movies, or take a vacation in a romantic hideaway across the globe.

Strengthen these images with visions of the two of you holding hands or relishing a loving hug.

Don’t hold back on the details. Let your imagination run wild and free throughout the course of this visualization exercise.

Whenever a negative thought dares to intrude inside your mind, bring up instead beautiful thoughts of a strong, loving, and long-lasting marriage.

Always picture the two of you surrounded by the golden glow of unity, a powerful barrier that repels the blackness of negativity.

From this powerful aura, project and receive positive vibrations from the Universe that will strengthen your marriage.

 

STEP 3: Accept the ABSOLUTE TRUTH that YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE CAUSE OF EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE

Humbly accept the truth that you are the cause of your separation, no matter how painful this admission will be.

Take all the fault and blame for transforming your ex-wife with your negativity. Most important of all, forgive yourself for making this big mistake.

Now, LET IT GO. Don’t brood over the mistakes you’ve made.

Instead, fill your mind with positive thoughts of your marriage and your impending reunion.

Again, strengthen these mental images by improving and embellishing them. This way, it will be easier for your mind to create your desired reality because it will have a detailed picture to work with.

I must emphasize the fact that your mind is a powerful tool. It can create the positive present and future that you want. This can only be done when you eliminate all those burdensome negative thoughts with positive ones.

If you do this, I promise you, the miracle you want will happen. YOU WILL GET YOUR EX-WIFE BACK!

STEP NO. 4: Get rid of your obsessive tendencies.

Accept your present reality and that there is NOTHING you can do to PHYSICALLY CHANGE IT RIGHT NOW.

It’s okay for you to acknowledge your pain, anger, fear, and feelings of betrayal; however, AT THIS MOMENT, there is nothing you can do to get back because YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS ARE AT FULL STRENGTH. Worse, they are manifesting as OBSESSION.

If you are obsessed with your ex-wife, you only worsen your present circumstances.

These obsessive behaviors strengthen the barrier between the two of you, which makes your reunion a near impossibility.

Here’s something you should know: some people enjoy the thrill of the chase. You don’t need to do this.

When you chase after someone or something so hard, you either don’t get it in the end or it was never worth chasing to begin with. All the best things in life you can get for free with zero or minimal effort,

You don’t need to struggle or work so hard to get your ex back. You don’t have to obsess with checking up with her all the time.

You just need to imprint firmly inside your mind all your positive thoughts of a reunion. Have strong faith and belief. Have the FIRM EXPECTATION that she will come back to you.

You don’t need to torture yourself to win her back when the power of your mind and positive thoughts can do the job for you.

I need to point something out though. When I say LET IT GO, I meant to let go of your obsessive tendencies. You ARE NOT LETTING GO OF HER.

If you want to see immediate results, you must develop sharp and clear mental and emotional discipline and focus to visualize your desired reality.

When doing visualization, block out all the background noise in your life. This includes negative emotions like anger, disappointment, and loneliness.

Break your ties with those negative people who kept on saying that your marriage was bound to fail. These people are channeling back to you your past negative thoughts. You must block out all the negativity as this has the negative effect of slowing down or canceling out the positive effects of your visualization.

I must emphasize this: YOUR THOUGHTS ARE YOUR ABSOLUTE TRUTHS; NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.

You can create your desired reality if you exert 100% control over your mind and stop the negativity from taking hold again.

Yes, there was a lot of negativity in your past, but YOUR PAST HAS NO BEARING ON YOUR PRESENT SITUATION AND, MORE SO, THE FUTURE THAT YOU ARE CREATING.

The past is past, it is done. It is not worth dwelling, worrying, or distressing yourself over.

Focus all your energies into forging a new, better relationship with your ex-wife.

 

Direct Your Absolute Focus on Yourself and Your Inner Thoughts

Be a butterfly. Undergo a metamorphosis from a slow, plodding caterpillar of negativity into a beautiful, free, and energized butterfly radiating with positivity.

This change can only occur if you devote all your time and energies into this ABSOLUTE TRANSFORMATION.

See what you’ve been in missing while you were in the deep fog of depression. Catch the latest movie. Go for a walk or a run to your local movie theater. Go to your local restaurant and eat all your favorite dishes. For the ultimate indulgence, get a massage at your favorite spa.

Give gifts to yourself. Buy that new suit and a pair of spit-shined leather shoes. Get yourself a haircut at your local barbershop. If they offer it, get a facial and hand/foot spas.

If you’ve been neglecting to check yourself out in the mirror, do it now.

Gaze enrapt and total admiration at the new you and declare, “You look absolutely dashing! You are so handsome your ex-wife is going to swoon all over you! This is just the start of bigger and better things to come!”

Immerse yourself at work. Praise yourself for projects that you have accomplished. Treat yourself to a victory dinner after office hours.

Now, take a good look around you and list down all the things you are happy about and feel thankful for. You still have your kids, a supportive family, loyal friends, a beautiful house, and a great career.

By having a grateful attitude, the Universe will be more inclined to shower you with blessings, including your desired reunion with your ex-wife.

As this transformation is taking place, visualize images of yourself being showered with so much love, praise, and admiration from people you know and even total strangers.

See how much they want to talk to you and make friends with you. Imagine yourself always surrounded by admirers.

This visualization is not complete if you don’t also picture yourself as being humble, giving thanks to your admirers for their heartfelt love and admiration for you.

Faith is the foundation of this new reality that you are creating. This means believing in yourself.

This will complete your transformation into a magnet of positivity, attracting to you everything that is good and positive, including your ex-wife.

This faith is also a rejection of all the negativity surrounding your separation from your ex. To get her back, place full faith, trust and belief in the power of your mind and the Universe. The stronger your faith and belief is, the greater is the guarantee of your reunion.

Last but not least REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE DOING THIS TRANSFORMATION FOR YOURSELF, NOT YOUR EX-WIFE OR YOUR CHILDREN.

You are doing this because you want to change and transform yourself into a more beautiful and attractive person. You want to restore the confidence you thought you had lost.

When you start to feel good about yourself, your ex-wife will surely become attracted to you and go back into your loving arms.

 

Final Words

There is only one thing that you need to remember: WHAT YOU THINK IS WHAT YOU CREATE.

All happenings – past, present, and future – are not random occurrences. They are products of your mind, manifested into your physical reality by your thoughts and emotions, whether they are positive or negative.

As you keep this in mind, always remember to exert 100% control and responsibility for your mind and thoughts. Through this absolute control, you can manifest your desired reality of getting your ex-wife back.

Be humble enough to admit the mistakes you have made in your marriage. Stop making excuses for them. Instead, forgive yourself and exert all efforts into restoring order back in your marriage.

All things that exist in this world are products of the mind. They do not exist on their own. Neither can they exist alone, much like the relationship you had with your ex-wife.

You must have the strong faith and belief that your ex-wife will come back to guarantee your reunion.

Be firm in the belief that the connection that you forged between you throughout the evolution of your relationship still exists and continues to be strong. Use this connection to send positive vibrations of love and desire to her. I promise you she will feel your heartfelt emotions and be drawn back to you.

Thanks to your mind, you are a powerful creator and manifestor of your desired reality and destiny. Claim this power and use it for your own.

Let your mind govern all aspects of your life, especially during this critical period when you want to mend your relationship with your ex-wife.

If you are to be the master of your reality and destiny, achieve mastery over your mind, thoughts, and emotions.

 

2019-04-18T13:50:09+00:00

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