How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind to Manifest Your Desires
Step 3: Identify Your False and Limiting Beliefs (FLBs)
Before you can change anything, you must first identify what you want to change.
If you need to fix an area of your life, you need to identify the different FLBs that you have in that specific area.
But since you have many FLBs, you need to focus on those with the biggest impact. Once you can successfully address these limiting beliefs, you can easily solve the others.
Method 1: By looking at other people
It is usually easier to identify FLBs in others than it is to recognize them in you.
Example, I have a friend who is frustrated and stressed over finding his next 9-to-5 job. He’s been going to interviews for months with no luck.
My friend has two masters degrees from top universities in the U.S. and has worked for big companies in Silicon Valley. He also does a part-time consulting job and earns good money from it.
I suggested to him to grow his consulting practice and turn it into a business, but he feels more secure with a 9-to-5 job.
There are several thoughts on why I think my friend thinks like this:
His parents are Asian immigrants who barely speak English. They inculcated in their children’s minds to study well and graduate from the best universities so that they can land high-paying jobs. Their parents kept reminding them that the ticket to a good and stable job is a degree from a good university.
His parents also run a small business themselves, but it remained a small-time business through the years and they were always struggling with it.
Building his own business will most likely afford him a lifestyle that is different from that of his parents, but given his upbringing and the beliefs that he acquired from childhood, it is most likely that he will stick to being a 9-to-5 employee.
Maybe he also feels that starting a business will affect his relationship with his parents, so he will continue to play it safe and stick to what makes him and his parents feel more secure.
These are just some thoughts. The point is that you can use this approach on yourself. Often, we are not aware of what’s wrong with us unless someone points it out. Then it becomes obvious.
If you don’t know your predominant beliefs about a particular thing, try this:
Choose a problem or an area in your life where you feel “stuck”. If you want to identify your FLBs, you must know where to begin and you need a specific situation to work with. Think of an aspect of your life that you want to change.
Finance: “I always run out of money.”
Business: “It is hard to grow my business.”
Career: “I am not qualified for that job because I don’t have a college degree.”
Relationship: “I always end up with someone who will eventually cheat on me.”
Self: “I am not beautiful because of my darker skin tone.”
Once you have done this, detach from yourself and try to look at your situation as an onlooker.
Be the observer of your situation rather than an active participant in it.
What are your FLBs about a specific area of your life?
Where do these beliefs come from?
Do they come from your mom, dad, or both?
Did you acquire them from your grade school teacher or someone you trusted and looked up to as a child?
Did you experience emotionally-traumatic moments in the past that imprinted these FLBs in you?
Method 2: Fill-in-the-blank method
This method is simple but very effective to recognize your FLBs.
To do this, describe a situation you are struggling with.
“It’s hard to start a business,” and add “because” after it and then finish the sentence.
“It’s hard to start a business because it requires an MBA degree and a big capital.”
“I cannot find love because I am not pretty.”
“It’s hard to lose weight because of my slow metabolism.”
“I am poor because my parents are poor.”
“I can’t travel because of my job.”
Don’t judge yourself when you complete these sentences but recognize that what you say after “because” is the FLB about a specific aspect of your life.
“I am poor because my parents are poor.”
In this statement, the FLB is “my parents are poor”.
Make a list of as many FLBs as you can about a specific subject, then focus on big FLBs that seem to cripple you down.