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Day 19

Your Common FLBs About Relationships and Love

Now that you identified where these negative meanings come from let’s talk about the most common FLBs in relationships and love

1. Fear that your partner will eventually leave you

This FLB comes from fear of abandonment. Fear of abandonment stems from being abandoned by one or both parents as a child, or not seeing either or both parents for long periods of time.

If you have this fear, you feel unsupported even when your partner tries their best to support you. You usually have thoughts that your partner will eventually leave you, just like what happened to you all your life.

When you have this FLB, you:

  • Consciously or unconsciously start arguments to test your partner, although this usually backfires because your partner ends up leaving you
  • Get involved with people who are not emotionally available, like these people live in other places, are committed to others, etc.
  • Tend to become clingy when in a relationship
  • Avoid relationships altogether so you won’t experience being abandoned

2. You don’t feel worthy or enough

You feel unworthy of love, of a right partner, or of a good relationship. You think that if your partner knew who you are, what you’ve been through, your real situation in life then they would reject you. Because of this fear, you usually invent a false version of yourself.

When you have this FLB, you:

  • Are critical of other people
  • Have a hard time accepting criticisms
  • End up demanding reassurance from your partner
  • Are drawn to people who are critical of you
  • Like to hide your authentic self

3. Fear of getting hurt

This false and limiting belief usually comes from an unsafe environment where the people close to you were physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive. Because of your experiences seeing these types of relationships around you, you fear that it will eventually happen to you. This fear often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When you have a fear of getting hurt, you tend to generalize that the people close to you will take advantage of you if you don’t protect yourself. You also think they will abuse or hurt you.

When you have this FLB, you:

  • Look for signs of betrayal or abuse
  • Suspicious of your partner’s real motive whenever they extend a nice gesture
  • Think your partner will cheat or is cheating on you
  • Lash out at your partner to protect yourself from being abused
  • Avoid having close relationships with others
  • Avoid relationships altogether because you don’t think you can trust anyone

4. You think and feel that your partner will not be there for you when you need them

You have this FLB when you lack emotional support, affection, understanding, and guidance growing up. This childhood experience makes you anticipate that you will be emotionally deprived in your adult life as well.

You have thoughts like you don’t get the kind of love that you need, you don’t have anyone in your life who cares about you, and you don’t feel emotionally connected to anyone.

When you have this FLB, you:

  • Become angry and demanding when your partner doesn’t give you what you need
  • Are drawn to people who are emotionally-detached as you can find yourself in them
  • Don’t open up to your partner because you think they will not be interested
  • Resent your partner when you don’t get the kind of love and understanding that you need

5. You think you are a failure

When you have this false and limiting belief, you always think that failure is inevitable. You are also insecure when around people because you are not as talented, successful, or smart.

You think that your friends are more successful than you are, so you don’t feel like you measure up to them. You also think you don’t have any skills or talents. You also feel insecure when your partner is more successful and more accomplished than you are.

When you have this FLB, you:

  • Avoid situations where you think you will be compared to others
  • Allow others to look down on your accomplishments
  • Minimize your potentials
  • Hide your authentic self for fear of failure
  • Judge and criticize others

Identify Your FLBs

1. By observing other people

It is easier to identify limiting beliefs when you observe others instead of yourself.

For example, I know someone who is in an abusive and toxic relationship with her boyfriend. She always wants access to her boyfriend’s phone and social media accounts. She also has the tendency to bring up faults and nag her boyfriend about his past mistakes, which result in arguments, shouting matches, and sometimes physical abuse. They broke up 20 times, but they also reconciled 20 times only to repeat everything all over again.

The girl suspects every new female Facebook friend of her boyfriend as a threat to their relationship, so she compels the boyfriend to block these women on social media. She also accuses her boyfriend of having an affair. She is insecure, jealous, and angry with him. To say that their relationship is toxic is an understatement.

It turns out that she had traumatic experiences with her first boyfriend and her ex-husband. Both men cheated on her then left her. Her ex-husband was a cocaine addict, who physically and emotionally abused her, and had an affair with another woman while still married to her. This experience left her devastated and depressed for months.

Her traumatic experiences with her first boyfriend and her ex-husband are now stored in her Subconscious Mind as FLBs about relationships. She subconsciously developed the following FLBs:

“Most men can’t be trusted.”

“Men always cheat.”

“I don’t deserve to be in a healthy and happy relationship.”

“Most women want to destroy my relationship with my partner.”

“He is talking to some women on social media.”

Because of these FLBs, it’s hard for her to trust her current boyfriend. She wants to make sure that he doesn’t talk to other women that’s why she wants access to his social media accounts. She is obsessed with him, checks his whereabouts every five minutes, and calls him to make sure he doesn’t do anything behind her back.

Because of her fear that her boyfriend will cheat on her, they eventually broke up, and he found someone else.

Because she doesn’t recognize her FLBs about relationships, her negative experiences with her current boyfriend affirm the FLBs that she got from her past traumatic experiences with her first boyfriend and first husband. What happens is these new negative experiences with her current boyfriend strengthened her FLBs.

If she doesn’t do anything to reprogram her subconscious and replace these FLBs, she will continue to manifest toxic relationships or bring toxicity in her future relationships.

This cycle of experience-thought-experience happens to many people. You experience something negative, you believe in this negativity, and you manifest your FLBs into a negative experience again. The cycle is hard to break when you are not aware of your ability to change your reality with your mind.

Start to observe other people, listen to their stories, and piece together how their previous experiences might have developed into FLBs that negatively affect their current situation.

Do they always say that “all men cheat” and then end up in cheating relationships? Do they always rant, like how they are unhappy and end up in unhappy relationships?

When you understand how the pattern of experience-thought-experience happens, you can start to apply this observation to yourself.

Think of your fears in relationships. You can go back to your relationship with your loved one and think of your predominant fears while in that relationship. If you’ve been in several relationships in the past, see if there is a pattern in your relationships.

2. Fill-In the Blank Method

This is a simple but effective way to discover FLBs about relationships. Describe a situation that you struggle with and add the word because at the end of it, then finish the sentence out loud.

Examples:

I don’t think I can manifest my loved one back because _______. (Finish the sentence out loud.)

I don’t trust my partner because ___________.

I fear about losing my loved one for good because _________.

I think I don’t deserve my loved one because _____________.

Write as many fears and limiting beliefs as you can about relationships, add the word “because” at the end of each, then finish the sentence out loud. Always record the first thing that comes to mind after “because”. Don’t overthink and don’t judge yourself so you can easily uncover your subconscious beliefs.

Additional activity

In addition to today’s exercise, you should also listen to your subliminal for at least twice a day, as well as to any of the guided visualizations I mentioned in the previous lessons.

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A Note from Marie
Day 3 – Nature of the Universe, You and Your SP are One, How You Created Your Reality
Day 10 – The Law of Attraction, How to Harmonize Your Desire, Create a Vision Board
Day 11 – Law of Correspondence, The Physical Plane, Your Creations in the Physical Plane
Day 12 – The Mental Plane, The Creations of the Mental Plane
Day 13 – The Spiritual Plane; How to Operate in the Spiritual Plane
Day 19 – Your Common FLBs About Relationships, Identify Your FLBs
Day 21 – Effortless Subconscious Programming, Specificity Is The Name of the Game
Day 23 – The Power of Suggestions, Affirmations to Manifest Your Loved One
Day 24 – Everything Has Two Sides, All Things Rise and Fall, Applications of Both Laws
Day 25 – Everything Has Its Own Time, The Law of Use, Applications of both Laws
Day 28 – The Best Mind State to Create Your Desire, Train Yourself To Get Into Alpha State
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